What if I tell you the average age for it is 15 but some people have their first kiss at 12, many of them at 19 and some at 29? And many people haven’t dated yet at 33, even 40. A kiss is not something you have to do to feel “normal” because “everybody else is doing it”.
I found a discussion about the first kiss on Reddit. A guy aged 23 said how he never kissed and thought he was hopeless. As similar replies came one after another, there was this knight in shiny armor:
“I was 27? Then within that same year, I lost 60 pounds, made out with like 7 girls after the date, then found the love of my life and lost my v-card to her. There’s hope.”
And then I remembered a musician famous for his love songs… People say he lost his virginity at the same age – 27. And he is like a Rock ‘N’ Roll icon where I come from.
The question of the average age for the first kiss got me back to my youth.
I remember when my friend 2 years older than me told me about her first one. She liked that guy very much and it was a big thing for her. When it finally happened, she described the whole activity as “stale” or “unpalatable“.
Of course, that’s not how it looks in a movie. A kiss is something with music and sunshine. Or starlight. Or rain. Perfection. And of course, you keep obsessing with it for years until you finally do it:
“When will I kiss a guy? What will it be like? How does it taste? What do you do with your tongue? I don’t want to make a fool of myself…”
And you can practice it with marbles, food, or your fingers but it won’t be as you imagined. And it may turn out just fine, or great, or your tongue may be stiff or whatever.
Even if you do everything wrong, it’s not the end of the world. If someone really likes you, they won’t be disgusted by you because of it. Because it’s just a kiss and there are so many different kinds of it. And it’s not that important how you do it the first time because it’s not the skill that matters but what the kiss means:
I care about you.
But teenagers are too concerned with what’s right and wrong, how others see them, and make such a big deal out of things, that they don’t realize how unimportant it all is.
And after that first kiss, you will think about the average age to have sex or a baby… And that first kiss won’t be so important anymore.
What is ironic about it all is there’s no average age because if you don’t do it for the right reason, then that kiss doesn’t mean a thing.
Your success is not measured by the age you did anything. Your worth either.
You are not a leper or a cripple if you don’t do it at the median age. Your average age for the first kiss is when you are ready and find someone who wants to kiss you.